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According to Chinese trandition, love shall be stable and reliable. Once you fell in love with somebody, that means you must him or her for the whole life. In fact, such a love has become something like a bond, but not an enjoyment as love shall always should be. To those in love and have married, there is a Chinese proverb which says that \"Once you married a cock, you will be hen; once you married a dog, you will be dog's wife for life\". That means you must be always faithful for the one you love, without change, without complain.
But things really change. Take an example, if you once bought something such as a pair of shoes, maybe in your eyes it is so beautyful, but it will not be so in the next year. Because there are always something new and better appears. Of course I don't mean to change your love so soon. Although is comparatively stable, but it actually still changes. No matter how long this change takes. Maybe it changes better, maybe changes worse. There are examples in Chinese history that many couples married by the order of their parents and matchmaker. But there are really examples that live a happy life after marriage. And there are also examples today many in romantic love result in devoice after they became wife and husband. Love is something we need to train, and to contribute. It is not possesion, once you bought and brought home, it will aways be yours if it is not broken. Love changes bad if you don't care of it, but changes good if you treasure it.
Mind your love, and love your another half.
You will find the real treasure of love. |
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